10 Reasons Why 25 Isn't Your Last "Good" Birthday.
Tomorrow is my 27th birthday, and I have been hearing from coworkers all week that "I'm getting up there" and "25 is really the last good birthday, don't you think?"
American culture is notoriously weird about birthdays and aging, especially regarding women. We are fully expected to be bummed about aging after 25, and if you don't have a mid-life crisis when you turn 30, you must be doing something wrong. You should buy $4oo worth of anti-wrinkle creams and cut out carbs completely, duh.
Well, friends, I have an announcement to make: I am actually excited about my 27th birthday. More excited than I have been about a birthday in a few years, actually. There are so many lovely things about aging, and I think our culture has warped our perspectives so that we don't notice them as much. In some cultures, women are perceived as becoming more beautiful with age as their increased wisdom makes them more revered within society.
So, think of yourself as less like a carton of milk with an expiration date and more like a fine bottle of wine that just gets better with age. Sit back and enjoy these ten reasons why your birthdays after 25 are really not bad at all:
1. You Finally Start To Feel Comfortable In Your Skin.
By the time you start approaching 30, those days of timidity and insecurity are slowly diminishing. You've been around the block a few times by now, and you develop a sense of dignity and respect for yourself that can only come with age.
2. You Become More Bold.
In addition to feeling better about yourself, you also have a newfound sense of boldness after years of being treated like a little kid. I was always very shy when I was younger, and over the years I learned that it pays off to stand up for yourself and for what you believe in. Don't take crap from people, nobody has time for that!
3. You Don't Sweat The Small Stuff.
And you probably don't put up with people who do. Coworkers or friends who always act like the sky is falling or have a knack for making mountains out of mole hills are simply a nuisance to have around. By this point, you can spot their kind from a mile away, and you run for the opposite direction.
4. You Care Less About What Others Think.
Remember those tentative high school years, when everyone was making fun of others in hopes of hiding their own self-loathing insecurities from peers? It was awful. Everyone cared so much what others thought instead of cultivating their own self-love, which is so much more valuable. By your late 20's, you are too busy paying bills, building your career, and being an adult to care what others think of you. If someone doesn't like you at work; Fantastic! One less person for you to make small talk with.
5. You Are Making Strides In Your Career.
If high school is about insecurities and mean girls, then your early twenties are about struggling through heaps of college classes and internships until you land a promising entry-level job with a reputable company. By your late twenties, hopefully you have struggled long enough and you are finally beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel. You inevitably have more experience on your resume than that summer internship by now, and your expertise shows through your work style. The end is near, and chances are that title promotion and raise isn't far behind either.
6. You Know How to Schedule A Doctor's Appointment and Deal With Creditors.
When you are just a baby bird in college, the world can seem like such a frightfully confusing place. They didn't teach us about taxes, rent, dental insurance, or how to spot a sketchy landlord back in school; you have to learn the hard way. By this time in your young life, you have hopefully learned how to do your taxes, get insurance, negotiate with creditors, and possibly even deal with an IRS audit. It feels good to not be so afraid of life anymore.
7. You Figure Out What Clothes and Styles Suit You Best.
After numerous faux pas, you hopefully have figured out by now what clothes look best on your figure, what your signature makeup style is, and which hairstyle highlights your profile best. In addition to solving this mystery, by this time you may even have a wardrobe curated with these staple items which is continuing to grow quite nicely.
8. You Learn to Accept your Quirks.
As time wears on, you realize just how much you cannot fight your quirks...or your genetics. Sometimes I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror while cleaning the house and I could swear I stand just like my mother. It's so strange how we inherit not only looks from our parents, but habits and quirks as well. After a while, you stop loathing yourself when you catch these quirks and begin to chuckle. These lapses may even make you smile, and think about how much you love and miss your mom.
9. You Feel More Settled With Yourself.
One of my ultimate favorite things about getting older is that I feel more calm and comfortable with my unique role in this life. I don't have a melt-down if I'm not invited to a party, on the contrary I love staying home by myself even more sometimes. I have no qualms about spending time alone being an introvert, and I don't feel embarrassed or ashamed about it either.
10. You Become More Settled In Your Relationships.
As you grow older, you basically become a better, more well-rounded person. In turn, your relationships with loved ones improve. I have become a sweeter daughter, a more loving wife, a more attentive friend, and a more supportive sister over the years. I think as we age we become less selfish (well, most of us) and therefore we get better at being there for our friends and family.